The idea that we need to improve ourselves time and time again with each passing year is universal yet exhausting. The underlying message we reiterate to ourselves is that the regular version of us from last year was never “enough”. Get better. Do better. Change it all.
I decided to sing a different tune in 2018 with the hopes of better results... errr, no results?! Let me explain. Instead of tossing out any remnants of the old me, I decided I like her and would keep her around. The trendy term “New year. New me.” used to hover over me like a dark cloud. My motto this year instead feels like the sun shining through on a dreary day.
"New Year. Worthy Me"
The idea of a blank slate offering extra motivation as we open our brand new calendars to reveal twelve months of opportunity before us, is not lost on me. I appreciate the endless possibilities presented when 52 empty weeks lie ahead. I certainly participate in the purge, organize, and clean all the things process that happens around this time. It just feels nice to cleanse your surroundings and set yourself up for success. I can rally behind self improvement and goal setting. I’m in no way encouraging excessive contentment or discouraging striving to better ourselves.
My goal with the motto “New Year. Worthy Me” is to set a tone of abundant grace, self improvement saturated in self love, and changes towards a truer me instead of a better me. The idea being that the me last year and the year before and the year before and many before that were good enough as is. That if I make changes this year, it will stem from the idea of loving myself into better choices. Not shaming myself into withholding or discomfort. It takes all of that desire to better myself and wraps it in a grace that says, “if not, I’m still good enough."
The truth is, resolutions die down most often not even a month into the year despite our best efforts. That seems to steam from the root of our so called "change". We can't stick out the commitment because we have told ourselves this change will be the only thing that makes our self worth a dang thing. My motto instead, confirms that if I change, it's because I'm worthy of it. But also if I stay the same, I'm already worth enough. Any aspirations I set for myself with that mindset seems like it will harvest lifetime adjustments not just momentary changes.